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Live Life through Inspiration not Desperation

Living life through inspiration is all about following your instincts and the things that make you happy.  Sometimes we get all caught up in our fears, not having the money to pay bills, what other’s think, or just negative thoughts, that we do things out of desperation.  We take jobs that we don’t want only to become sub par employees who complain and feel trapped in a company.  We listen to friends who claim to have our best interests in mind, only to end up wondering how we became and still are friends. Or, we get caught up in the negative thinking of we are not good enough and will never live out our dream life.

Stop thinking this!  This is the thinking that leads to unfulfilled dreams.  Instead, focus on the things that make you happy.  Focus on the things that are going right in your life, even if it’s only one small thing.  Let it be the spark that causes more sparks and then ignites into the flame of passion. By focusing on the things that make us happy, it will inspire more happy thoughts, experiences, and attract more of what we really want in our lives.   While we are experiencing more of  the days, things, and people who make us happy, we are experiencing less of the things that make us unhappy or throw us into the desperation mode.  And, as the days go by, we will begin to realize, we are living out our dreams and life isn’t as bad as we once thought.

 

Reclaim Your Voice

It’s great to have friends, mentors, and people you can depend on.  It’s good to have someone to talk to, bounce ideas back and forth, or just converse with from time to time. That is the beauty of have wonderful people in your life.

One of the draw backs is you may start to lose your voice.  You start taking their advice so much that you no longer trust your instincts – your inner voice.  You start to repeat the things they say, act the same as them, and, in some cases, start to look like them. All of your ideas are what others told you they should be, and you no longer question what they say.  Even when having conversations with others, outside your circle, you find yourself repeating their ideas instead of your own.

It’s time to reclaim your voice.  Time to trust your intuition and ideas.  Time to be you.  This may take distancing yourself from these people, retreating into your safe place, and taking a deep look at what or who you have become and who you want to be.  Yes, I know it’s hard. I have been there before and it’s easy to let someone else make decisions for your life instead of voicing your opinion and following your instincts. But, it is so much more freeing and exciting to follow your inner voice and make your own decisions. It feels wonderful to know that you can make the right choices or wrong choice and still be you.  You don’t have to be a clone of your friends and mentors. Everything you need is inside you and once your realize it a whole new world awaits you. Own your life, own your decisions, and reclaim your voice.

Follow the Leader

Stop it!  Stop letting others lead you to a place where you don’t want to be.  Whether it is a lover, family, friend, or boss.   Stop letting people make decisions for your life.  If you don’t want to do something, DON’T DO IT.  If you would rather spend the weekend at home, in your pajamas, eating tacos in bed, instead of going out with friends or family, DO IT.   If you want to simply work 9-5 and not strive to be a manager, then DO IT.

You are the only person who knows your needs, heart, and goals.  You are the only person who has to answer for the choices you make in your life.  You are the person who has to live with your decisions.  Stop playing follow the leader and become the leader.  Take control of your life.

 

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Late Night Thoughts…

Why are people so quick to define others by their imperfections, addictions, or flaws?  Are people less worthy because they are not perfect?  Is someone less of a person because they don’t excel in all areas of life?

A person can be a great teacher, musician, writer, or friend and still have internal battles to fight. You could have known this person all of your life and never known the struggles he faced, every day. This person could have helped you when no one else would but never once had the courage to ask for help herself.  As long as they never revealed their struggles, they were considered great, worthy, or a hero.

The thing with some people,  it’s easier to help others than to help themselves.   It’s easier to help others face their fears than to fight the monster under their own bed. Sometimes, being there for someone else is what keeping them from breaking.

People spend way too much time focusing on what is wrong instead of celebrating the good.  Having an addiction, imperfection, or flaw does not make anyone any less of a person.  It doesn’t make them less real. It does not negate all the good they have done.   They are still worthy of friendship, love, and life.  And to someone who needs it, they are still a hero.