What is True Love

The question many people ask themselves is will I find my true love.  We are looking for the person who will love us unconditionally, flaws and all.  Love us when we are at our best and worse.  Love us when we are old and grey.  The person who will never abandon us.  The person outside of you.

We are taught, from a young age, to look outside of us for love.  We are to groom ourselves to become the best person, best lover, best friend, best cook for someone else to love.  But, the truth is, true love come from inside you.

We must stop looking outside, for validation, and start looking inside.  How can you love another and accept another person, for who they are, when you have not loved and accepted yourself, for who you are?   You cannot expect something, from someone else, that you are not willing to give yourself.  How can you recognize unconditional love, from the outside, when you have not accepted it on the inside?

To find true love, you need to find yourself.  You need to love yourself.  Love your unconditionally, flaws and all, at your worst and best.  Don’t become someone for a person who may or may not show up.  Become what you want for the person who is here now, YOU!

Remember to Take Care of Self

Sometimes, we get so caught up in taking care of others, we forget to take care of ourselves.  You are the most important person in your life.  Even if you have a family, put your health and well being as a top priority.  You can’t  take care of everyone else and treat yourself like crap.  If you have a family, you definitely have to make sure you take care of your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health or you will be of no use to anyone.

So don’t be afraid to say no, you need some alone time, or just shut the world out. You deserve it.  So take that walk, stay in bed all day, go to the beach, or play that video game. Just take care of you.